John 11:28-37 : When she had said this, she went away, and called Mary, her sister, secretly, saying, “The Teacher is here, and is calling you.” When she heard this, she arose quickly, and went to him. Now Jesus had not yet come into the village, but was in the place where Martha met him. Then the Jews who were with her in the house, and were consoling her, when they saw Mary, that she rose up quickly and went out, followed her, saying, “She is going to the tomb to weep there.” Therefore when Mary came to where Jesus was, and saw him, she fell down at his feet, saying to him, “Lord, if you would have been here, my brother wouldn’t have died.” When Jesus therefore saw her weeping, and the Jews weeping who came with her, he groaned in the spirit, and was troubled, and said, “Where have you laid him?” They told him, “Lord, come and see.” Jesus wept. The Jews therefore said, “See how much affection he had for him!” Some of them said, “Couldn’t this man, who opened the eyes of him who was blind, have also kept this man from dying?”
Sadness about death is not wrong. Death is a curse and not what God intended. Being sad about it makes sense. Some claim that death is just a part of life. Actually, death is an enemy of life and death itself must come to an end someday.
We know that being sad about death is good because Jesus, who is good, was sad about it here. He knew about the future resurrection, but being in the presence of suffering caused by death, He cried. We should not feel ashamed to cry about the loss and suffering caused by death either. It is a bad thing.
Jesus understands what it feels like to lose a friend. He lost His cousin, John the Baptist. The Bible says, as Christians, we should cry with other Christians who are suffering and be happy with those who are happy:
Romans 12:15 : Rejoice with those who rejoice. Weep with those who weep.
Some of the people started accusing Jesus in their anguish. When we are acting in our own power, it is easy to get so confused and angry that we accuse the righteous instead of the wicked. Death was definitely not the fault of Jesus. It is the fault of mankind. It is mankind that sinned and earned death as a result. Jesus came to bring life. As believers, we can overcome this problem by trusting in the power of the Holy Spirit inside of each of us who believe.